2012 and the sensitive man.

Isn't that just a laugh? I sometime wonder where men went wrong. In the early 1900's, if you even thought of treating a woman like crap, there would be 3 guys lined up to "teach you some manners". Not to mention the fact that women did not find the cold, rude, and callous man attractive.

So, where/when did we go from there, to if I happen to show a little emotional vulnerability, I am weak and undesirable?

I understand that women look for the good looking guy that has the confidence of Han Solo that can handle his self personally and professionally, but is there no room in there for the sensitive guy as well? My dad is from the old school. Construction work his whole life, was part of a biker gang, very blue collar. I have seen him cry 3 times in his life and they were huge things.
1. When my mom threatened to leave him.
2. When I was 8 and he got a little drunk and hit me when I surprised him.
3. When I got back from Iraq.

Its hard to tell anymore what or when a man is expected to be vulnerable? Even when the woman starts it, I am expected to keep my cool rather than express how I really feel. In most cases I am ok with that, I mean after 3 dates when a girl tells me that she loves me and breaks down when I look at her funny, its pretty clear that I need to get out of there. Whats the go forward point though? 5 dates, 15 dates, 30, or is it in years? Is it ok for my dad to break down in front of my mother after 40 years of marriage?

My mother isn't the normal woman though... I have only seen her cry once to my dads 3 times. So how in the world did they end up raising a son with tons of confidence that cries every time during the movie Armageddon?

And why is that not ok?

Princess Leia: Han, I love you.
Han Solo: I know.